Contributed by: Georgia Ellis

Have you ever known what to do to experience the results you want but somehow you just can’t do what you know you need to do?
 
The thing is….
 
I know you have… because I have too.
 
I have spent 20+ years gathering all sorts of information from books, podcasts, training, seminars and experts, a hellova lot of knowledge, yet for the most part… I do nothing with it… a potential waste of my time and money.
 
Having had a fascination, and also worked, in the human potential and personal effectiveness space for the same amount of time I have witnessed first-hand how participants of my programs, coaching clients and I have all struggled with this often frustrating phenomena.
 
But, I have also noticed an anomaly…
 
It seems that the people with high levels of self-discipline are the ones who take the information they gather and do something with it… going on to achieve success across different aspects of their life such as improved physical health, more resilience and better personal and professional relationships.
 
And once I understood this anomaly… I began to put it to use, I decided, that if I wasn’t going to commit to putting into action the things I learn, I wasn’t going to waste my time (or money) on gathering more information that may make me sound smart… but it sure as hell wouldn’t make me wise!
 
My decisions had to be backed with a high level of self-discipline.
 
Many years ago one of my mentors provided me with a description of self -disciple that changed the game for me personally. He said “Self-discipline is the ability to give yourself a command and then follow it”
 
Self-discipline is also a key component to building trust, you’ve likely heard it plenty of times… “do what you say you will do” – but when it comes to self-discipline its actually a conversation that occurs in the safety, and privacy, of your head, where no one else knows what you are attempting to commit to, effectively know one will know if you fail… except you.

Self-discipline is the ability to trust yourself to act, even when no one else knows what you are striving towards.
 
If I couldn’t commit to the commands I gave myself to adopt new and improved ways of being – then my personal and professional goals were going to be relegated to the realm of wishful thinking,…
 
and I’d stay stuck right where I was!
 
While the principle is simple in theory, I know from personal experience that it can be profoundly challenging in practice.

For those of you navigating the business world, attempting to meet objectives, manage a team or prevent burnout, mastering self-discipline can make the difference between thriving and burning out, between been trapped in a cycle of drama and being empowered, between mediocrity and excellence, and between influencing not only personal performance but also the success of entire teams and organisations.

At its core, self-discipline involves having clear goals, making deliberate choices, and consistently acting in alignment with those decisions. It’s about resisting the temptation to deviate from your path, regardless of distractions or difficulties.

The concept is elegantly captured in the adage: “Discipline is doing what needs to be done, even when you don’t want to do it.” 

I have noticed that some people (those less effective in achieving goals) can easily put off doing what’s required to get to where they want to go – as Don Sula said – “It’s the start that stops most people.”

One of the significant challenges in achieving self-discipline is the knowing-doing gap, a term popularised by Jeffrey Pfeffer and Robert Sutton in their influential book, “The Knowing-Doing Gap: How Smart Companies Turn Knowledge into Action.” This gap refers to the disconnect between consciously knowing what needs to be done (information held at a conscious level) and actually doing it (a role of our subconscious mind).

For most of us this gap can be a formidable barrier to success.
 
In most instances, we are well aware of what we need to do to achieve our goals. We attend seminars, read books, and develop strategic plans. However, translating this knowledge into consistent action is where many falter. This gap can stem from various factors, including fear of failure, low levels of self-awareness, lack of confidence, not understanding how the mind works, and the allure of short-term rewards over long-term benefits.

Bridging the knowing-doing gap requires a concerted effort to cultivate self-discipline. Here are some strategies to enhance your self-discipline and ensure that your actions align with your knowledge and goals:
 
1.   Get clear on what it is you want and why: Ask yourself questions like, “What is It I really want in this situation?”, “Is this what I want or is it what I think others want me to achieve or who others want me to be?”,  “What will achieving this goal bring to my life/career?” or “How will reaching this goal impact my long-term happiness and fulfillment?”, “How grateful would my future self be if I set out on this goal today?”, “How will others benefit when I achieve my goal?”

A goal that you are emotionally connected to often provides the intrinsic motivation to get started.
 
2. Develop a Routine: Consistent routines and habits can reduce the mental energy required to make decisions, making it easier to stay disciplined. And when your intrinsic motivation begins to wane, any well-honed practices that are now routines will run on autopilot, requiring very little (if any) self-motivation.

3.   Prioritise Tasks: Set yourself up for success with written to-do lists. It may sound basic, but it really works. When we write down tasks the night before, our subconscious mind processes them while we sleep, often leading to fresh ideas and solutions by morning. This mental preparation helps us wake up ready to tackle the day with greater focus and effectiveness, ensuring that we hit the ground running and accomplish our goals more efficiently. Remember to focus on high-priority tasks that align with your long-term goals. Use tools like the Eisenhower Matrix to differentiate between urgent and important tasks, ensuring that your efforts are directed toward activities that yield the best results.

4.   Practice Mindfulness and Self-Awareness: Mindfulness practices can help you become more aware of your thoughts and emotions, reducing impulsivity and enhancing self-control. Techniques such as meditation and journaling can foster greater self-awareness and discipline.

5.   Hold Yourself Accountable: Establish accountability mechanisms, such as regular self-reflection, peer reviews, or mentorship. Being accountable to others can reinforce your commitment to disciplined action.

6.   Embrace Failure as a Learning Opportunity: Fear of failure often paralyses action. Reframe failure as a valuable learning experience and an integral part of the growth process. This mindset shift can reduce anxiety and enhance your willingness to take disciplined action.

I bet you’ve felt it before, those times when you feel like you are performing like a superhuman… you’re devouring your to do list in record time , fresh ideas are emerging, information you have gathered is effortlessly finding a home in your work and time has no meaning to you, Oh and did I mention that  it feels amazing!
 
This optimal state is known in the circles I move in as “flow”.
 
Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, a renowned psychologist, studied this and found that you reach flow when you have both self-discipline and the ability to let go, or surrender.
 
When you practice self-discipline, you set yourself up to enter this flow state more often. Discipline helps you start tasks and stay on track, while surrender helps you enjoy the process without worrying too much. At the intersection of discipline and surrender, you can find flow, which is a sure fire way to increase your personal effectiveness!

If you manage or lead people, modelling self-discipline sets a powerful example for your team. When your team members observe you consistently following through on commitments, prioritising long-term goals over short-term gains, and maintaining a disciplined approach to work, they are more likely to adopt similar behaviours. This creates a culture of discipline within the organization, driving collective success.
 
You can foster self-discipline in you teams by providing clear expectations (goals), linking those goals to what matters to them, offering support and resources, and recognising and rewarding disciplined behaviour. Encouraging a growth mindset and resilience in the face of challenges can also help team members develop their self-discipline.

A few weeks ago, I caught up with a business owner who shared his lack of good routines and he asked whether my practices changed when I traveled for work.

I said "No they don’t…"

He then commented on how disciplined I was with my morning routine and life in general (what I like to call my not negotiable’s)

I simply replied…

"It’s easy to be disciplined when you realise it gives you more freedom".

As a coach and facilitator on all things personal and leadership effectiveness, I have witnessed many a person who lacks discipline and their life and work is riddled with stress, chaos, burn out and health issues…

If you want to perform or feel better, I suggest you start falling in love with a disciplined life! Start by determining your ‘Not Negotiables’ - and then stick to them – no matter what, at first it will require a big dose of will-power, and over time those regular practices will become who you are!

In today’s fast-paced business world, the ability to stay disciplined is a game-changer.

Here’s why discipline is your key to more freedom:

Achieve Your Goals: Discipline helps you consistently reach your goals, paving the way for growth and fulfillment.

Master Your Time: Effective time management through discipline eliminates last-minute stress and gives you more time to do what you love.

Reduce Stress: Order and predictability reduce stress, allowing you to focus on the demands of life with a clear mind.

Form Healthy Habits: Turning positive actions into automatic habits frees up mental energy for creative and strategic thinking.

Boost Confidence: Consistent discipline builds self-confidence, empowering you to tackle new challenges and lead yourself with a sense of assurance.

Self-discipline is a vital attribute for bridging the gap between knowing and doing. 

Discipline really is the bridge between goals and accomplishment - and you need to build that bridge if you want a better life!.

Back in 2013 after leaving my Senior Manager Role behind and stepping into a new version of myself as a Business Owner, I took a trip to Iceland. The icy and snowy landscape was not only epic, but it also provided a timely reminder of the cortical landscape of our brains. Kinda a weird connection to make, but stay with me...

As I took in the landscape I couldn't help but see a resemblance to a Human brain and the way our continual thinking carves out new and unique neural pathways, it occurred to me that as en employee I had been thinking a certain way, which had led me to have a rather successful career... but that thinking, and those neural pathways, were not going to serve me as a business owner.

Fast forward to 2019, and with a deeper understanding of neurobiology and the interconnection of our thoughts, emotions and movement. I now appreciate the power of post conventional and complex thinking and the importance or rewiring our brain to steer us in a new direction... partly because of the science, and partly because it's exactly what I did to grow my business. I worked on my mindset first.

In the book "The Biology of Belief" by Dr. Bruce Lipton, he explains how our thoughts and beliefs impact our biology.  Did you know if you continuously think thoughts with a negative bias about life or the future, that is tell yourself woeful stories or make negative judgements of a situation or person, that you create a neural pathway in your Brain that hooks you up to seeing only the negative? Just like crevices in the snow that have been carved out by a sled taking the same path over time, those continual thoughts create a deep seeded negative bias.

When you begin to understand neurobiology and neuroscience and even epigentics, you quickly discover that we can retrain our brains to “steer our sled” on to a new path with a positive outlook, then that pathway will show a physical change in our brains.  Neuroplasticity means that our brains are continually firing and wiring new pathways, the more we think a thought, the stronger the connection or pathway, the less we think a thought, the weaker the pathway and eventually it prunes away. Each one of our thoughts and subsequent behaviors are responsible for this change in our brains. It's an empowering idea that we can literally begin to prepare ourselves for these extraordinary, complex and uncertain times with the nature of our thoughts.

Not only does a switch in thinking help prepare us for the future, it has other profound effects on us physically and can even help reverse anxiety and depression.  Research has shown that regular positive pole thinking can lead to:

• better immune system and health,
• success in relationships and work,
• resilience,
• becoming more attractive to other people,
  
• you are more interesting to be with,
  
• and it helps us to flourish in complex times.
  

Unfortunately negative pole thinking produces the opposite results. Take the point above about being more attractive to other people, I most certainly are turned off by negative people.

The best thing about  being in control of our thoughts is that we have a new opportunity each moment to enhance our emotional experience. I discovered many years ago that we always have a choice as to how we respond to situations, events and people.  Armed with the knowledge that a positive attitude to life is worth nurturing, and that we can steer ourselves onto a different pathway on our habitual cortical landscape, then we can begin to work on strategies to make this happen for ourselves. Some strategies that I have found helpful for steering my thinking into a better future are:

• Being grateful for who I am, what I have and my ability to create opportunities.
  
• Surrounding myself with positive pole solution focused thinkers.
  
• Being a Life-long learner.
  
• Being curious and trying new things.
  
• Taking appropriate risks and doing the things that stir up anxiety or fear.
  
•  Practice metacognition - catch myself being negative and choose to flip the negative into a positive
  

The more I adopted these practices the easier it was to have a positive mindset.  My cortical landscape was changing, and i began to naturally steer myself in a positive direction.  Changing the way I thought about things, changed the emotional attachment i had with people and situations. I moved from being the victim to the external world to being the master of my inner world, which strangely, changed the way I saw the external events that used to trigger mental anguish. People who know me somehow think I have always had a positive outlook, the truth is I haven't, I had to teach myself and I am still a work in progress, with the know-how and tools to steer my thinking back on track towards an extraordinary future.

Back in 2011, Bradley Cooper starred in the box office hit movie “Limitless”. The plot follows Edward Morra (Cooper), a struggling writer, who is introduced to a nootropic drug, which gives him the ability to fully utilize his brain and produce optimal performance.

Have you had days where you wished you could fully utilize your cognitive abilities just like Coopers character?
The thing is, few of us realize that there are people out there doing just that… and it doesn’t involve taking a “smart pill”. Ordinary people like you and I (and some extraordinary athletes) are already tapping into this altered state of consciousness.

Over the past decade, Silicon Valley executives like Eric Schmidt and Elon Musk, Special Operators like the Navy SEALs and the Green Berets, and maverick scientists like Sasha Shulgin and Amy Cuddy have turned everything we thought we knew about high performance upside down.

Imagine a life that required less grit, no more working hard to create productive habits, and dismantling the 10,000 hours theory. From studies conducted across a number of fields and headed by Jamie Wheal and Steven Kotler, Co founders of the ‘Flow Genome Project,’ there is a surprising short cut to obtaining optimal consciousness. People across different industries are learning how to harness rare and what used to be controversial states of consciousness to solve critical challenges and outperform the competition.

Flow is the optimal state of consciousness, a state of mind in which you are able to perform at your peak, separated from time, focused solely on the task at hand.

Also known as being "in the zone", it's a state of consciousness that in the past has been difficult to reach and maintain. Most commonly it is experienced by athletes performing high-adrenaline, extraordinary feats of endurance, strength and concentration in sports like mountaineering, rock climbing, surfing, kayaking and so on. In these extreme situations, they are able to get into 'flow' or 'the zone' which enables them to survive and thrive even in the harshest and most demanding of conditions.

Until recently, flow has been inaccessible for those outside of these extreme scenarios, leaving them unable to reach this advanced state of consciousness. However separate research conducted by Dr Joe Dispenza and the Flow Genome Project Founders is showing us that we can access this state and tap into its benefits in the workplace.

“A flow state is a state of consciousness which you feel at your best and perform at your best”

By using MRI and brain scanning techniques, and analyzing what it is that athletes do to enter this state, Kotler has reached a great understanding of flow. While Dispenza has been using brain scans to better understand Gamma brainwaves, which is linked to being in flow and how the brain (when in gamma or flow) produces a super levels of awareness and consciousness along with a heightened state of wakefulness.

Now, by adopting the right habits, altering your behaviors, and adopting a growth mindset, you can access flow in your day-to-day life, unlocking enormous potential at work.

How to tell if you’re in a state of flow according to Kotler and Wheals book ‘Stealing Fire’:

1.    You feel no sense of self (Selflessness)
2.    Time dilates and dissipates (Timelessness)
3.    The activity flows magically (Effortlessness)
4.    You feel tapped into inspiration and information (Richness)

“Information richness is a feeling of a high resolution download of realization and possibility that seems to emerge from the world around you” Jason Silva

While there are a number of different methods you can use to prime yourself for an optimal state of consciousness, here are 4 of the most accessible ways to reach flow.

1. HAVING CLEAR GOALS
Understanding WHAT you are doing and WHY you are doing it is critically important. Knowing exactly what you need to achieve at the present moment allows your mind to be free from distractions and helps to unlock greater focus on your current task, and get into flow.

2. SERIOUS CONCENTRATION
Blocking yourself from the outside world – distractions like your phone, social media, gossiping, can help you move into the state of flow. Limiting the number of things your attention is divided between allows greater concentration and maximum attention directed towards what you are trying to achieve.

3. SKILLS/CHALLENGE BALANCE
There is a range between difficulty and simplicity of a task in which the capability of the brain can be unlocked. Too difficult a task leads us to disengage and try to escape the task out of a kind of primal fear. If it is too simple, then we disengage due to boredom. Only between these two, when doing a task that stretches you slightly beyond normal, is the possibility for achieving flow possible.

4. MEDITATION
Meditation sharpens your mental abilities, but by learning to produce more gamma brain waves, you will use your brain in its greatest capacity. It can be as simple as putting on your headphones, listening to relaxing music. And then, when your brain and body are relaxed and blissful, focus on love and compassion. Neuroscientists believe that people can train themselves to produce more of the gamma frequency and it is believed that focusing on compassion and love is one way to do this. It makes sense when you look at elite athletes,– they love what they’re doing, and they’re immersed in what they love – so gamma is a natural state of consciousness for them!

While there are a number of different ways you can maximize your ability to enter flow, these four tips are a great place to start… and great way to tap into your limitless potential.

Contributor: Georgia Ellis,  Founder of Blue Chip Minds.