It's never too late to do what matters!

Do you find yourself pulled between your personal desires or responsibilities and doing what needs to be done for your business or career?
 
In the early 2000’s while managing over one hundred and fifty staff spread across more than forty-one thousand square kilometers, (without Zoom or MS Teams) I was introduced to the concept of work life balance, and I began instilling the idea with the team.

It sounded like a great theory at the time, especially with early mornings and late evenings after driving from location to location to visit team members. But with hindsight and knowledge backed by personal experience I came to understand that to obtain true work life balance, a 50/50 split, was not only impossible but trying to achieve it was creating unnecessary stress… kinda defeating the purpose.
 
In the world we woke up in today, things are vastly different than twenty years ago, we can access work from personal devices, and connect with team members across multiple time-zones with the click of a mouse and more of us are choosing to work from home making it so much easier for our focus to be hijacked by less important and often trivial distractions.
 
This can have a detrimental flow on effect on our productivity, relationships and performance as we unconsciously relegate the things that matter the most to the ‘I’ll get to that later’ list.

In the leadership programs we run, there is a fun and often tormenting activity we do where participants are forced to let go of the things they believe are important to them in order to get to what really matters most…
 
One by one we witness managers and leaders letting go of their gym memberships, their barista brewed coffee, their nightly glass of wine, their entertainment subscriptions, their hobbies, and even personal freedom is sacrificed as they narrow down to the one thing that matters most to them.
 
Do you know what 98% of participants declare as their most important thing, what they couldn’t live without? It’s Family!

If you find yourself doing things that are not important, or chipping away at outdated processes, maintaining unproductive habits that take you further and further away from what matters most to you or heck, you may still be trying to achieve the impossible 50/50 work life balance, you know, feeling guilty at home on the days when work needs to be a priority and thinking you’re in the wrong, or your reputation will be ruined, when personal and family commitments impact your work.
 
It doesn’t have to be this way, you can equip yourself with cutting edge tools to help you navigate the demands of the day, increase productivity, and focus on what matters.

I know it can be painful doing things that are not working for us and at the same time not having the knowledge to push back confidently and intelligently on the things that negatively impact our well-being, relationships, goals, values, and time.
 
Before learning or sharpening the tools that will help you do more of what matters… you may want to first understand the 6 most widely experienced derailers I see people from all walks of life struggle with.  
 
After 20+ years of diving into the fields of human potential, mindset and neurobiology and psychology combined with 1000’s of hours coaching I noticed common traps we all unwittingly fall into when it comes to getting to the things we really want to do or spending time with the people that matter most.
 
If you are like me and want good results, I have no doubt that you know that to achieve results and perform at our best we need to be confident in our decisions, efficient in our thinking and productive with our time.
 
This is easier said than done because no matter how hard we try to be productive and do what matters, there always seems to be people, situations, notifications, and that pesky inner voice that have the potential to distract and derail us.

Derailer #1 - The People Pleaser

What I have noticed both within myself in the past, and with coaching clients is the first issue we face. To put it simply, we want to please everyone.
 
Being a people pleaser and not being able to say no effectively leads to doing things not aligned to our goals or doing things to keep other people happy or maintain an unhealthy peace.

Derailer #2 - Wired to Avoid Change

The second derailer comes from our neurobiology - we are wired to avoid uncertainty.
 
This innate need to feel safe can slow down or even prevent decisions from being made. This leads to procrastination because we’re afraid to make a start or do things differently. We end up fighting against anything that takes us away from homeostasis, clinging to how things are or how things were, wired to stay in the safety of an outdated way of being.

Derailer #3 - Unhealthy Habits

We can look to biology to understand the third derailer. Derailer number three is our unhealthy well-being habits draining us of the energy we need to get things done.
 
Our energy is derived from the type of food we eat, how much we move, and the quality of our sleep.
 
These are all important factors that impact energy levels and our ability to do what matters, often giving preference to an easy task (think Netflix, gossiping or social scrolling) to match our low energy levels.

Derailer #4 - Misaligned Identity

The fourth derailer is a psychological one. When our subconscious identity is not aligned to the work we need to do we will unconsciously sabotage our efforts.
 
When who we assume and believe we are is not aligned to who we need to be to get the work done we end up going in circles often reverting to our old ways.
 
If you want to dive a little deeper into the power of your self-image, grab copies of Gay Hendricks book ‘The Big Leap', Chip and Dan heaths Book 'Switch' or Maxwell Maltz book ‘Psycho Cybernetics’.
 
The deeply held beliefs you hold about yourself create a protective system that can sometimes lead to us sabotaging our efforts to focus on what really matters.

Derailer #5 - Unsupportive Environment

The fifth derailer is an environmental one.

You can't be productive if your physical, social, or mental environments are unsupportive.

To set yourself up for success in this area be sure to create an uncluttered space dedicated to the work that needs to be done. Ensure that you are socially supported by engaging in a coach or buddy to cheer you on and hold you accountable to delivering on your objectives. 
 
It is equally important that you create a supportive mental environment by choosing narratives that support your outcomes such as telling yourself  things like:

• “I’m a ninja with my time”,
• “I deliver before due dates”,
• "I easily focus on my work",
• “I am resourceful and get things done in a professional and timely manner.”

 
In essence you’re giving yourself a pep talk to override any beliefs that suggest you don’t have the time, energy, or capacity.

Remember: Your mental attitude will always influence you output.

Derailer #6 - Distractions

And sixth most common thing that derails us is distractions, and wow… the world certainly has turned up the volume on distractions and shiny objects, stealing our attention away from what’s important.
 
Distractions big or small such as noise, notifications, interruptions from other people or pets, regularly checking emails or your phone. Anything that takes you away from what you are doing are the biggest derailers of productivity.
 
These unwanted intrusions on our time slowly eat away at any hope we may have of consciously integrating our work with our life.
 
Believe it or not distractions are the easiest to fix when you know how to set boundaries for yourself and for others. If you'd like some easy fixes to help you deal with distractions grab yourself a copy of Nir Eyal’s book ‘Indistractible’

Getting Back On Track

What’s interesting about these six common derailers is that we can overcome all of them by overcoming the first one.
 
Once we know how to say no in an enlightened way, we begin to help ourselves and others to let go of the things that no longer serve us and to focus on what’s important.
 
We can set boundaries for ourselves to create healthy well-being habits, we can set clear limits and expectations as to the person that we want to become, we can say no to the things in our environment that get in the way of our best performance, and we can deliberately put measures in place to ensure we are not distracted from what matters most moment to moment.

It’s up to you to get yourself on track and more importantly, stay there. The tools are available in books, podcasts, and courses.
 
The first step is to determine what really matters to you, what’s your priority in any given moment then check to see which of the derailers are present.
 
We know that knowledge alone doesn’t do a darn thing, so if you want support to kick any of your bad habits, outdated self-beliefs or fixed mindset to the curb…

I’m opening up my diary to 6 people who are yet to experience Blue Chip Minds Coaching and who want to get back on track to join me for some complimentary 1:1 time in a 30min get me back on track session.

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So… what stops you most often?

• Are you people pleaser?
  
• Do you avoiding uncertainty, clinging to how things are/were?
• Do you have unhealthy wellbeing habits?
• Is your self-identity misaligned to what you want?
• Is your environment (physical, social, mental) full of clutter?
• Are you easily distracted, unable to focus on what’s in front of you?

 
Drop me a line, I’d love to hear what derails you and how you plan to get back on track.
 
Here’s to you doing more of what matters.
 
 Contributed by Georgia Ellis